Some Good New and Some Bad News

Last Saturday, I celebrated another birthday (yes I know I’m super late writing about it). And as always, I look forward to celebrating another year because it always give me a chance to look back and see how far I’ve come and an opportunity to see where I want to go from here. I always feel like, for everyday that I wake up, there is a chance to do better or another goal to set.

Originally, I didn’t want to do anything for my birthday because Lorenzo and I were leaving on Monday for our much anticipated honeymoon. At the last minute I changed my mind and we went out to dinner with some friends. I chose for us to go to The Melting Pot, because I’d never been before and Lorenzo’s sister gave us a miniature fondue pot for Christmas last year that we’ve never taken out of the box. I was curious as to what kind of recipes that I could use it for and thought that going out to dinner there would give me some ideas.

The day started off pretty slow, I went to the spa in the morning and spent some of the afternoon napping. Before we went out to dinner I did get some bad news from my dad that my grandmother was in the hospital and things weren’t look good. He told me not to worry but I was definitely worrying (I will never understand why people in my family do that: call me with bad news and then tell me not to worry about it. I just don’t get it.)

So we went to dinner and had a good time, but when I woke up the next morning my sister confirmed that my grandmother didn’t make it. So the day before my honeymoon, I had find a way to reroute my trip in order to go back home to say goodbye to her.

I didn’t take any pictures that night because my mind was totally somewhere else. But, Lorenzo did get me some amazing gifts. I received a new perfume, new shoes, a purse, a shirt, and a much needed new laptop. While the one I have now still works, its been through some things and has been causing me some problems. One of them being because I spilled red wine on my keyboard while blogging one night so my keys are super sticky. Yes I know, totally my fault.

My next post will be specifically about the honeymoon, but I need to get the photos in order. Lorenzo and I have them all over the place: my phone, his phone, his camera…everywhere.

I’ll get caught up soon…I hope.

That Time I Went Home & Had a Great Weekend

This weekend went by so quickly.  A little TOO quickly for my liking.

It went by so quickly that I was already planning my next trip before my current trip was over.

My brother, Kevin came to pick me up from the airport and took me to see his new place. Then dropped me off at (my sister) Cassandra’s , so I could see her new place. Then I made my way over to the City (New York City for those who don’t live in the Tri-State Area) to see my old co-workers at Rockefeller Center. It was nice to see everyone,  I stayed with them for a few hours because I was chatting with everyone individually. Afterwards I headed back to Jersey to pick up my Dad from work.

After spending sometime with my Dad and Grandmother, I ended up back at Morgan’s (my other sister) for dinner. We were supposed to go to Hoboken for dinner, but stayed put instead…then the drinking ensued.

Fast forward to Saturday (because I hardly remember what happened after we started drinking), my friend Carmen came to take me out to brunch because she wasn’t able to make it that night. I don’t have  a picture with her, but I was just happy that I got a chance to see her. After spending the day running around getting pretty with Cassandra, it was time to head back to the City for the actually party.

I was really excited because one of my old Army friends, Rashonda was able to come out. I haven’t seen her in person since 2009 before I went to Iraq. She’d gotten out of the Army the year before so we weren’t seeing each other that often any more. When she met up with us that night there was lots of screaming, jumping up and down, hugging, and more screaming. There was one point where we paused and looked at each other and said, “You’re so beautiful!”.

UsiePat & Shonda

My other friends, Shenitha and Kay also met us there. My friend Maggie wasn’t able to make it Saturday because she sprained her ankle during a Tough Mudder Run. I did meet up with her on Sunday for brunch. I told her not to bother because she was injured, but I obviously lost that fight. She really proved to me how much she loved me with that move. I think I’ll keep her.

Kay Shenitha Maggie

The best part of this trip wasn’t even the night itself, but the company that I had. I was so excited to be around family and friends that it didn’t matter what we did just as long as we were together.

Before I came home I went to see my Dad and Grandmother again, and I was also able to spend more time with Jojo. I was happy that she was comfortable with me considering that when my brother Keith went home to visit she wouldn’t go near him for almost 2 days. All the Skyping we do must come in handy.

Me, Jojo, & Bam Bam

I can’t wait for my next trip.

Going Home

I’m going, going, back, back to….Jersey!

Yay! I’m FINALLY getting a chance to go back home and I am so excited. I tried not to fill up my schedule with too much stuff because I know some things are going to pop up last minute and some things are going to take longer than others (in other words, I talk too much). I definitely need to make sure I spend time with my niece, my Dad, and my grandmother, but Friday and Saturday night are for my friends. (Can you say…Party?)

I also got a new hairdo. I was a bit nervous about getting it done because I got extensions and I haven’t had long hair since before I moved to Georgia. Curtis (my stylist) got me used to wearing my own hair over the past two years so I was kind of hesitant to get it done. Please he used a technique called microlink, which I’ve never heard of before but I think it looks amazing. No glue, no sewing, no braiding…I think it’s being held in by magic and Jesus.

New Hair Style

Lorenzo and I also got a chance to go out to E-Villa Lounge this weekend. One of his military friends’ fiance was celebrating a birthday so it gave us a chance to get dressed up and go dancing (and show off my new hair). We had a really good time. I don’t think I got drunk but Lorenzo did end up helping me out quite a bit when we got home. But even if I didn’t get drunk last weekend, I’m definitely getting drunk this weekend! And for me it might only take about 2-3 drinks.

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Random Thoughts #3

After about a year of being a college dropout, I’ve finally decided to go back to grad school in October. I haven’t done anything but fill out the application and I already have a headache from thinking about doing the homework.

I’m so happy to be home. I feel like I haven’t seen Lorenzo in months as opposed to weeks. I love him lots. :)

My friend Tia likes reality shows, she says it’s a guilty pleasure. I don’t understand them. It’s the same dynamic over and over. Women who don’t really know or like each other hang out, pretend to be friends, go home, talk shit about each other, get back together, fight, go home and talk more shit about each other, get together, pretend to be friends, and fight some more…all of that while their makeup is impeccably done. She says, she doesn’t like drama in her life so she watches it on television. I can understand that…

I’m going home next week to hang out with my friends for a very informal bachelorette party. This should be interesting. 

The honeymoon is getting closer. I’m so excited. I’m not excited about packing for it though. I think I’ll take a few pairs of shorts and a bathing suit…and that’s about it. Uggghhhh…I hate packing.


I made it home on Friday afternoon after hitting some traffic on I-75. I came home to a super clean (and slightly redecorated) apartment that afternoon, where my husband and best friend were waiting for me. After unpacking and doing some online shopping the 3 of us went to get some dinner and drinks.

First we went to a restaurant call Polaris located at the top of the Hyatt Regency Hotel. Its a revolving restaurant, like the Sundial, and what I liked about it was that it was more of a lounge as well. There were long couches and coffee tables in addition to regular dinner tables. It has a very upscale ambiance that I liked. We ordered drinks and appetizers, Vietnamese Spring Rolls and the Cheese Platter, but Lorenzo and Tia thought the dinner menu was limited so we decided to go somewhere else for dinner.

Me, Lorenzo, Tia
Me, Lorenzo, Tia

After Polaris, we went to another restaurant called Time. This restaurant was more casual and the dinner menu was a bit more extensive than Polaris. The only thing I didn’t like about this place was that the music was kind of loud so it made it hard for the 3 of us to converse. The food was prepared well. I had scallops, Tia had salmon, and Lorenzo had shrimp tacos.

Tia had to leave for a military school on Saturday morning, so Lorenzo and I stayed at home for most of the day. We wanted to go the the car and bike show at the Congress center, but my stomach was bothering me almost the entire day (it still is to be honest). But just to get out of the house we went to the Uptown Comedy Corner for the late show and then to Landmark Diner in Buckhead afterwards. To me there is nothing special about diners- I’m from New Jersey- I used to go to diners all of the time.

We’ve been going out a lot this weekend and today I get to just do my hair and get ready to go back to work tomorrow *rolls eyes*.

August is going to be a good month for me though. I’m getting to to back home to New Jersey, we are going on vacation, and my birthday is coming up. Yes, I’m almost in my mid-thirties and I still look forward to birthdays. I hope its something I never get tired of.

Oh, Savannah!

I’m back at it again with some military training. It was kind of last minute so I had about zero time to write about it beforehand.

This training event is in Georgia, but this time and I’m about 45 minutes away from Savannah. This was very convenient because I’ve wanted to visit Savannah since I moved here. Lorenzo has been here before, but he was okay with driving out here to visit so that we could see it together.

Since Lorenzo arrived Friday evening, we slept in, then went to get some breakfast before heading out. We did some shopping first (well, I did some shopping) then we went downtown and took one of the tour buses around the downtown area. We took a quick tour because we caught the last bus. Lorenzo was telling me that Savannah has a lot of history (the town was established 43 years before the United States declared its independence) and we learned a lot on the tour as well.


Bus Tour
Bus Tour

We also had dinner at a place called The Shrimp Factory on River Street. I got the Shrimp & Grits (as usual) and Lorenzo got the stuffed shrimp. We also ordered a popular drink called the Chatham Artillery Punch which also has a 200+ year old history in Savannah. I wasn’t super thrilled about the drink but they give you a complimentary glass when you purchase it. The food was great but I think I’ll try another drink next time.

Shrimp and Grits
Shrimp and Grits
Chatham Artillery Punch
Chatham Artillery Punch

Me always eating Shrimp and Grits is going to be the death of me. I’ve gained 20lbs within the first 6 months of me living in Georgia and I partially blame it on the fact that almost every restaurant here has it on the menu. I think I’ve only had it at one place and didn’t think it was great- but that didn’t stop me from eating it. And don’t worry about the 20lbs, I was always underweight so I could stand to gain a few pounds.

I have another week to go before I head back to Atlanta. Lorenzo and I don’t have any plans for the weekend just yet but that is quite alright with me. I think I want to rest up before I head back to work.  Laters!

Book Review: Gone Girl

Warning: This post will have spoilers from the movie and the book Gone Girl. It will also have some use of the word “bitch” and I know this can seem offensive. If you’re easily or even slightly offended by that word, you should just skip this post altogether. 

While I was on my military training last month one of the Captain’s that was sharing a suite with me was reading the book Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn. Now, I’d already saw the movie a few months ago with Lorenzo when we were hanging out with some friends in Snellville. I’d never heard of the book (or the movie) at that point so the only reaction to Amy’s behavior is “bitches be crazy”. Seriously.

I usually like to read the book before I watch a movie so that I could have a full understanding of what is going on and I’m able to fill in the blanks when I have questions that the movie can’t answer. Since I had some downtime while I was away I decided to give the book a try. I needed to get in Amy’s head.

The book started off a little slow, it took a while for the book to include Amy’s fake journal and then even longer for the real Amy to surface. Now, while I wanted to punch Nick in the head throughout the entire movie for being so stupid, the book made me hate him even more. Nick wasn’t my concern though it was really Amy. She took so much time and effort and planning to set Nick up for her murder, just to turn around and go back to him in the end. It all just seemed like a whole lot of effort just to get Nick to…wait…I’m not exactly sure what she was trying to get out of him. To love her? See the error of his ways? All because you didn’t want to give him the satisfaction of getting a divorce- that would be too easy for him. Okay then, I guess.

When Nick started gathering some background info on his wife, they show a scene in the movie where an ex of Amy’s was telling him how she accused him of rape after they had consensual sex. He explained how she’d completely set him up and ruined his life. What the movie doesn’t mention is how after Amy called the police on the guy she sent him a creepy note stating something along the lines of “Next time you’ll know”. What was the guy’s crime? He started dating someone else.

There was a story of another girl that Amy went to school with when she was younger. According to Amy’s parents the girl (Hannah?? My memory is crappy) became obsessed with Amy and told Amy’s mother that she was going to kill Amy and replace her. When Nick went to finally speak with adult Hannah she told the real story of how she was new to the boarding school, Amy befriended her, and when Hannah started to become more popular than Amy, she became weird. Amy offered to dye Hannah’s hair the same color as hers and told her to play a joke on her mom by saying that she would replace Amy. Then Amy threw herself down a flight of stairs and blamed Hannah for it. When Hanna moved back home because of the embarrassment (and restraining order) she also got a note from Amy with the same creepy message that she sent the guy. Crazy bitch.

Amy liked to teach people a lesson, apparently. There was a short period of time when I wanted to feel sorry for her. She expressed her disdain for her husband by talking about women having to play the role of the “Cool Girl” in order to please a guy. While I could agree with her to an extent she turned around and started acting crazy again so I went back to hating her. While Amy was a very intelligent woman, she was very manipulative, conniving, and vengeful. She made people love her and then used them like she was a puppet master. I kind of felt that she and Nick deserved each other.

Anyway, while I think the book and the movie were definitely entertaining they are not items I would put on my top 10 list. I was just happy to be able to make time to read an actual paper book. Amy’s still a bitch though. I’m just saying.