The Hair Diary

I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned this before but shortly after I moved to Atlanta I decided to stop relaxing my hair. Well…I was told by my new stylist to stop relaxing my hair. Yes, I put up a fight. Yes I lost that fight.

Before I moved, my sister Cassandra (who is also a licensed cosmetologist) was the only person I let touch my hair. I used wear a lot of weaves and wigs- especially in the winter, because it seemed that my hair would just break off and shed excessively between October and February every year. I was nervous about moving here with out her because I didn’t know how I would maintain my hair. My friend Tia recommended her stylist, Curtis, and during my first appointment with him he told me to stop relaxing my hair, stop wearing wigs, and he would help me get my hair healthy again…naturally.

One of my (many) wigs :)
One of my (many) wigs :)

I was apprehensive at first but, I trusted him. Lorenzo was cool with it because he likes my real hair anyway. The last time I’d had a relaxer was April 2013 and I haven’t looked back. Transitioning wasn’t as hard as I thought it was going to be. I really don’t do much of anything with my hair in the first place, so I wasn’t putting it through a lot of torture.

After getting it pressed - August 2013
After getting it pressed – August 2013
Curled up- April 2014
Curled up- April 2014

I will say this though: I think I’m the worst natural ever. :) After finding a bunch of blogs and websites designed to help people who want to transition maintain their tresses, I literally followed none of the advice. I don’t put any of the natural oils in my hair (except for the one time I used coconut oil because I ran out of hair pudding), I don’t do any of the beautiful and cool hairstyles that I see in the photos (1. because I’m lazy and 2. because my hair never seems thick enough or long enough to pull it off, or it just. won’t. curl.), and I don’t co-wash. I’m not even sure if I completely understand how that works to be honest. If its been too long since I’ve been to see Curtis, I’ll just wash it myself, put 5 or 6 braids in it to help it “wave” for “crimp”, and keep it moving.

My hair IS growing, however. Slowly but surely it is definitely growing. This is the most I’ve seen it grow without me keeping it hidden under a wig for months on end. There were a few months were I was using Hairfinity to help with the growth as well. I liked the product and noticed that my hair does grow faster when I’m taking it versus when I’m not, I just need to be more consistent with taking them.

Pressed again -2015
Pressed again -2015
After braiding- 2015
After braiding- 2015

I don’t have a goal length that I’m trying to reach, I just wanted my hair to be healthy. The heat in the Iraqi desert damaged my hair pretty badly (it was past my shoulder before I left and at the nape of my neck by the time I came home, and very damaged and uneven) because I didn’t know how to maintain it that extremely hot and dry environment.

I used do think that my hair just didn’t grow, or couldn’t grow long but these past 2 years have proved me wrong. I am excited about this journey and I can’t wait to see how long I can my hair to grow.

Maybe I’ll style it one day…. maybe.

Where I Ate Last Week

I’m not sure if I mentioned this before, but Lorenzo is a foodie. Some men like video games, some men collect expensive sneakers, some fish, golf, play sports, or work on their cars. Lorenzo eats.

And boy does he like to go out to eat. I miraculously gained 20 lbs. after only living in Atlanta for 6 months when I was NEVER able to gain weight while living in New Jersey. I used to chalk it up to a fast metabolism, but I see now its because I wasn’t eating properly…obviously. I moved to Georgia and discovered Shrimp & Grits, but I digress.

Last week we tried a few new places to have dinner. On Thursday Lorenzo was craving a burger so we ended up at place called Flip Burger Boutique in Rosewell which was pretty amazing. It was such a date night place to go and they had a list of amazing good. Lorenzo got a salmon burger and I got a shrimp burger and both were delicious. We started with an order of wonton crisps; I enjoyed them, Lorenzo didn’t; he prefers his tuna sauteed (you can’t see this but I’m rolling my eyes). Wonton Crisps

We also found a taco place called Takorea, which is a combination of Mexican and Korean food. We tried a few of the tacos: the grilled chicken, shrimp, beef, and fried chicken (yes, fried chicken) which were all great and even more so when you put the Korean hot sauce on them. What can I say, I like spicy food.

But we finished off our taco dinner with Ice Cream from Morelli’s. We both tried a new flavor called Elivs Lives which is banana based with peanut butter and chocolate. It tasted like a cross between banana pudding and a Butterfinger, and it was a-maz-ing. They also had a blue one called Smurf, which was also pretty good, but I think I’ll save that one for next time.

So those are the new places we tried this week. We’ve been going to some places regularly like the Suite Lounge,  Another Broken Egg Cafe, Panera Bread or Taco Mac when we don’t want to cook. I don’t know what we are going to do if we have kids. We won’t be able to eat out as much so we are going to have to cook. Ugh…I’m rolling my eyes at the idea of responsibilities.

Missing New York

I need to make a trip back home. I miss my family and friends, and I miss being in New York.

Even though I am from New Jersey, I’ve spent a great deal of time in New York as well. From family trips there as a kid, to partying there in my early 20’s, to working there as a professional for almost a decade before I moved to Georgia.

New York is a great place to visit. If you are the kind of person who likes the idea of “the big city”, likes having a lot do to and a lot to see, I would recommend to go there at least once. I know there are lot of people who like the serenity of the country side as a opposed to a major city, so this post is not for you today (sorry).

I don’t think I would ever live in New York City, a.k.a Manhattan, a.k.a “the City”. It’s every expensive, very crowded, and very LOUD. The crowds and the noise drove me crazy when I worked there. My job was located right in Rockefeller Center, so I was right in the middle of a tourist trap and stuck in all the holiday crowds.

But I had access to some of the best stuff. Here are the things I miss the most about New York:

1. All the free stuff you would get from promoters advertising their businesses. I’ve gotten free sodas, cupcakes, hummus & pretzel snacks, and once I got a female condom!

2. Food trucks. Well, the food, period. You can eat food from all over the world in NY. You can visit a different place to eat for every meal, every single day, for years. I’m not sure how many years but it’ll take you long while.


3. Speaking of food: S’mac. Enough said.

4. The Shopping. Clothes, shoes, jewelry, and purses galore. NY changed their tax policy to almost match NJ’s when it came to clothes. New Jersey doesn’t charge sales taxes on clothes, but NY did, so now there are no taxes until you spend over $110 (this may or my not still be true, but it was when I lived there).

5. There is SO much to do. Other than the traditional touristy stuff like going to a Broadway play and visiting Times Square and Central Park, websites like Lifebooker and Groupon made it even better because I was able to get deals on things I normally wouldn’t have done or found businesses that I wouldn’t have found on my own. I’ve used Lifebooker to book dance classes (belly dancing, salsa, etc), make up lessons, facials, teeth whitening, beauty products, photography lessons, and all kids of other stuff. It was super convenient because most of those things I was able to do right after work so it didn’t inconvenience me on my commute back to Jersey.

6. There were things to do for any budget. Just like there were places to party and eat that are on the high end, there were just as many hole-in-the-wall kind of places for those of use who don’t “have it like that”. This especially came in handy when I was a struggling college student trying to have a good time while keeping my spending down.

I miss New York.

I need to go back home…soon.

Product Review: Sephora Favorites-Lashstash

There is nothing like mascara. Its amazing how it just makes your eyes stand out even if the rest of your face completely bare. If I were forced to only be allowed to use one item of makeup for the rest of my life (other than Chapstick), it would be mascara. While its a pain the arse to take off sometimes it’s still my favorite, and probably always will be.

I purchased Sephora Laststash a few weeks ago and I’ve used all of them at least 3 or 4 times, but I’ve decided which I liked and which I didn’t after only the first use. Here is the list in order of my preference:

Clinique-  Dual Ended High Impact Mascara and Lash Primer- This surprised me because I’ve generally have had a “Bleh” experience with Clinique products. The brushes are the perfect size and the formula doesn’t get super hard. This is the only one I’ve considered purchasing.

Smashbox Full Exposure- This was the largest one in the box. It also has the biggest brush. Usually big brushes create a mess for me because my eyelashes are naturally sparse and barely there, but I’ve managed to make this one work.

Urban Decay Perversion Mascara- This is the smallest tube in the group, but the brush is pretty big and spiral-ly. Its also very soft, which is nice because its easy to apply.

Lancome Paris Hypnose Drama Mascara– I have a Love/Hate relationship with this one. While the bristles on the brush are long and it curves to help with making the lash curl, its just really….messy. I made an absolute mess of my eyes when applying this one. I think the formula took too long to dry for me.

These two were stabbing/scratching my eyelashes during application:

Buxom Lash Mascara in Blackest Black and Benefit-They’re Real! I had high hopes for the Benefit mascara. I think because my lashes are not that long to begin with so I was hoping to see a significant difference with using it. No, it just scratched me up and left me looking like the rest.

And for these four, I wasn’t a fan of the brushes:

Josie Maran Argan Black Oil Mascara- The shape of the brush did nothing for my lashes but on top of that the formula was really dry as well.

Kat Von D Immortal Lash 24HR Mascara- Not only does this one have a brush that I couldn’t stand, it was also VERY dry. Even taking it out of the tube took some effort.

YSL Mascara Volume Effet Faux Cils Baby Doll- This bristles on this one are very short. It was very hard for me to grab my lashes with it and I had to apply it multiple times just to see some results.

Sehpora Collection Outrageous Curl Dramatic Volume and Curve Mascara– The name for this one makes me laugh because there hardly a brush to use, let alone curl. There was barley anything to catch my lashes. This is the one I’ve had the hardest time with.

The kit also came with an Eye Makeup Remover that I haven’t used yet because I use Pond’s Cucumber Cleanser to get the mascara off. It’s mascaras worst nightmare. I’m happy I made the purchase because it, a) means I don’t have to buy any mascara for a while and b) I got an opportunity to try out a few different brands I probably wouldn’t have purchased otherwise or may not have gotten around to trying.

Has anyone tried these and had a different experience? What’s your favorite mascara? Why?

Getting a Raw Deal

Lorenzo loves to use that term. Whenever we are bashing  talking about our exes he always uses the phrase, “she was trying to hand me a raw deal”. I used to think only my friends and I were lucky enough to date crazy men with ridiculous intentions and even more ridiculous actions; I used to assume that because my friends and I had ourselves “together” for the most part that most women did to…that is until Lorenzo started telling me some of his dating horror stories. We tend to go back and forth, our personal experiences and the experiences of people we know. It amazing how entertaining it can be.

My experience with guys trying to hand me a “raw deal” goes back to just the way they used to try to get away with too much too soon. There were guys that would see me going to or coming home from work everyday that would try to talk to me and get my number, but when I started asking questions about what they did for a living they couldn’t give me a straight answer. I was not going to date an unemployed man. Period. You mean to tell me you can put all this energy into trying to get my number but you can’t put that same energy into finding a job? At the time I was already taking care of of 3 unemployed teenagers so I couldn’t see myself wasting spending time with someone and having everything be on my dime. There wouldn’t have been any balance (another phrase Lorenzo likes to use). I liked going out to dinner and dancing with my friends with whatever money I had left over after paying my bills, so I wasn’t going to create an extra bill for myself by having to pay for an extra person…all of the time. What a burden.

Lorenzo briefly dated a woman who suffered from seizures from time to time so she wasn’t able to drive and didn’t qualify for most health insurance plans. Lorenzo didn’t have an issue with that, his problem with her was that not only did she lie about having a job, she was still living with her parents, and expected him to take her to 4 and 5 star restaurants- all of the time. She wouldn’t even eat chicken wings with him! When he asked her what she wanted in a partner, she stated that she wanted someone to take care of her, meaning, providing place to live, only buying her the best clothing and dining experiences, and someone to pay her medical expenses as well. When he asked what she was bringing to the table, she responded by moving her hand up and down her body. Yeah…he stopped calling her after that.

Lorenzo and I have similar logic when it comes to dating. We both work hard and like to reap the benefits of our hard work by treating ourselves every now and then. We aren’t rich but we like to do things for one another that would require both of us to have a job. We can’t see ourselves being with someone who requires us to do ALL of the work and bear all of the financial responsibility in a relationship. That would be a raw deal.

Does anyone have any “raw deal” stories they want to share? I plan on adding more stories, but probably at another time.

More Random Thoughts

1. I am officially over Internet Explorer and Firefox. I’m pretty sure I’m behind the curve on that but what can I say? I like things that are familiar. As of late, they both have been pissing me off, so Chrome it is. Maybe I just need a new computer?

2.  It really irritates me when people cut me off when I’m trying to ask a question- especially when its work related. Please understand that I know the basics and that maybe my question extends beyond that because if it were a basic question, I would already know the answer. Duh. What’s even worse is that, in my area there is a poster that reads: The problem with communication is that we don’t listen to understand, we listen to respond. But yet, no one takes the time to actually LISTEN to questions before spitting off an answer- but then I’m told to make sure I listen to customers.

3. One thing that I’ve always wanted to do was have a book published. When you’re ten years old you pretty much have life figured out, so you know that everything you plan is going to happen EXACTLY the way you plan it, right? Yeah, okay. Anyway, I want to start writing again and this time I’m actually going to see if I can get something published…anywhere. It’ll be one more check mark on my bucket list. Wish me luck.

4. Am I still in the Army?? UGHHHHH :(

5. I’m not really sure why I never pursued fashion as a career. Its the only thing I’m really into: clothes, shoes, hair, makeup, modeling…the whole 9. Maybe I wasn’t confident enough, or that my life’s circumstances didn’t really allow me to push towards it like I wanted to. I know I didn’t have the support system. Maybe I was looking for something more stable (read: realistic for me). I’m not sure. Is it too late? Where would I start? What would be step #1?

23 Workers Describe Their Most Hilarious (And Baffling) Experiences With ‘Stupid’ Customers


This gave me a good chuckle. Enjoy!

Originally posted on Thought Catalog:

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Found on r/AskReddit.

1. I work in customer service for a cell phone company so everyday I hear the dumbest customer I’ve ever heard. But a good one was when a customer called complaining about international numbers calling an soliciting her. I asked what the number was and she gave me a standard 10 digit number. I asked why she thought it was international to which she said “because the caller ID says it’s coming from the District of Columbia”.


2. When I was working internet tech support, I had a customer call us up because his net wasn’t working. He said he hooked everything up but “the damn thing just won’t let me email”.

He then said “the cable you sent me was too damn big”. I told him that shouldn’t be the case, and he said he had to re-size it to make…

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