Time To Move On

Time to say goodbye…

This will be my last post with Alex’s Next Move. I’m hoping to launch my new blog, Everyday Patrice, Monday, July 4.

Working on this blog has been fun. I think this is one of the first times I’ve ever shared things I’ve written with other people (apart from one Creative Non-fiction class in college). I can’t believe that I actually stuck with it for 3 years, I’m very proud of myself for that.

One of the reasons for me to start a new blog is because I’ve felt sort of limited with this one; it was a way for me to document me moving from one state to another, and then all of the experiences I’ve had during that. But I felt limited because I felt that I could only write about that and nothing else, and there were days and sometimes weeks before something worth writing about would happen. I’ve tempted to add other things but then felt like I was veering off from the original purpose.

The new blog will have more details about regular everyday things, and also some of the stuff that Lorenzo and I talk about when it comes to family, school, marriage, exes, work, fitness, money, and food. We love food. Occasionally, I’ll throw in some military stuff.

I’m really looking forward to this more versatile blog, and I hope that my readers will find it interesting as well.

Here’s to new beginnings!


The Next Move

Man, that was a long two weeks. I will never get used to how when I am at home the days seem to fly by but the moment I put on my uniform time seems to stand still- for hours at a time. This year for my 2-week training event we took a bus out to Arkansas (I know, totally random) and met up with an active duty unit, while we were training National Guard soldiers. Total integration.

I’m normally not a fan of working with Active Duty guys; most of the ones I’ve come across in the past had all these negative preconceived notions about reservists and treated people they’ve never met based on those ideas. They tended to look down on us because we opted not to join the “real Army” and accused us of not being fully committed even though they had no idea why we joined or what our individual circumstances were. This group, however, I really enjoyed working with. Everyone was nice, there was no judgment, and even the commander was easy to talk to (I’ve met some really…not so friendly commanders in the past).  And I hope to be able to work with them again in the future.


I thought my role was going to be an outside role; that’s what I was used to. I was always in the field- outside all day, in the sun, sweating so much that my skin was gross and clammy at the end of the day. But I ended up having an office role. I enjoyed not having to be outside all day, but I was annoyed (and bored) being stuck in the office all day. The ONE day I did get to go out was good for me (it was supposed to be a 2-day event, but a training accident called for the second day to be canceled). The day was everything I’d expected: hot, sweaty, and LONG. Even though I had a pretty decent time, I was more that elated to come back home, see my husband, and sleep in my bed!

But now that I’m back home, it’s time to focus on the future. I just finished my marketing class, and my next class is online, and it starts in a few weeks. I’ll also be visiting New Jersey for a few weeks as well. This will give me time to spend with my nieces and to show my face at work. I don’t want to be labeled the chick who sits on the couch and watches soap operas all day. It’ll be good to spend more than a few days here and there with my family, and maybe I’ll get to see some of my friends this time. Maybe.

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Memorial Day and Moving On

I know that I am extremely late with this post but, I had a nice Memorial Day weekend (and I hope you guys did too). Lorenzo and I packed up the car and drove about 6 ½ hours to Daytona Beach, where Lorenzo’s sister lives, to celebrate her eldest son’s high school graduation. Lorenzo and I also “celebrated” our one year wedding anniversary last Friday as well. Why the quotations? Well, because really didn’t do anything special to acknowledge the occasion. We both worked all day, (well, I worked all day, I don’t know what Lorenzo was doing) and by the time we were done, we had to pack for the trip. We went to dinner at The Palm, just to say we did something, and because we really didn’t feel like cooking. Then we got up at 3 am and were on the road by 4am.

Of all of his siblings, only two were unable to attend. On Saturday, we had a party, and I was able to chat with a few of Lorenzo’s aunts about what he was like as a child. I wanted to get some insight on what our future children’s personalities may be like. Since the graduation was Sunday night, we took Lorenzo’s aunts, mom, and sisters out to brunch about an hour away in Titusville at a place called Shiloh’s Steak House. The graduation was nice; at the beginning of the ceremony the announcer recapped all of the world events that were going on at the time from when all the graduates were born up until this year. I did a little math and realized that most of these kids were born around the time I was getting ready to graduate high school myself! Ugh… Anyway, the announcer made a statement that resonated with me, he said:

“Most people don’t live the life they want; they live the life they were given.”

I liked that statement because it rang true for a lot of people that I know. They think they have to live the life they were born into and don’t try hard enough to do anything else. The life that I was given is the entire reason I work so hard- I don’t want to relive that every day…but I digress.

In other news, I have decided that I’m going to put this blog to bed. I started this blog three years ago before I moved to Atlanta and it covers my move here, my engagement, my new home, all the places I’ve visited, my wedding and honeymoon, my job search and starting my Master’s program. This isn’t necessarily a goodbye, but more like, “see you on my next blog”. I still haven’t decided what to call it yet, but I want to have it launched by July. This one will still be about my life, but not specifically about moving to Atlanta. Maybe I’ll talk more about my marriage…maybe Lorenzo will write something from time to time…we’ll see.

I have some work to take care of for the next two weeks, so I will make sure to post information about the new blog on my next post. Until then, enjoy the summer!

I Have Braces

Eight years after my old dentist in New York told me that I needed to straighten out my teeth (the bottom row), I finally got braces installed the other day. My NY dentist wanted me to get Invisalign, but that $5,000+ price point made me super hesitant. Why? Well, my bottom row has been crooked since they grew in; I was used to them. Plus I’ve also mastered how to smile without showing them at all. MASTERED IT.

I do, however, have a tooth in the front that is slightly slanted, or it’s starting to push outward ; it’s hardly noticeable, but I know it’s like that and that was more than enough for me  to consider straitening them. It started to become more recognizable to me in the past 2 or 3 years. I think that the older I get,  the more the tooth is going to start pushing out more and more.

My new braces

Instead of getting Invisalign, I opted for another option that my new Atlanta dentist completed in-house called 6-month smiles. The process took about 2 hours to install, and the pain wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going  to be. I am still sore, so I’ve been eating the softest foods I could find for the past f ew days. Lorenzo and I keep a few packets of Oodles of Noodles on standby just in case of emergency. We started keeping a few of them in the house about two years ago after that government shutdown where we both ended up out of work for a month.  But I digress.

As per the name, I only have to keep them on for six months or so. I had to buy a travel toothbrush and a water flosser to help with the transition. So far, I just can’t wait to get used to them so I can go back  to eating real food (because that’s what’s most important).

I may write about the progress in a follow-up post at another time.

Here’s to straight teeth!

feature photo credit: wfsmile



Goals, Goals, and More Goals

I’ve been really busy lately. Like really busy. My whole life seems to be: work, gym, school, work, gym, school, work, gym, school, military, work, and sometimes I eat.

This year is going by so quickly that I didn’t notice it was already May until I received my monthly email that my AdoreMe showroom was ready. Lorenzo and I have a lot of plans this year. We are already booked through August. Some are military events, some family, and others are business related. We even purchased a few finance books from a pop up book store and Amazon on finance and investing in order to brush up our skills and figure out ways to make more money.

Some books about money


One of the things I love the most about being married to Lorenzo is that he is a very goal oriented person. Every year we have new plans for things we want to accomplish in the upcoming years. Last year, it was getting a married, going on our honeymoon and getting a raise at work. We did all three. This year we want to save more money, help remodel Lorenzo’s mothers house, start looking for our own home, get business certifications (Six Sigma and PMP) and try to find time for a vacation.

The primary goal is to save $100,000 (this was Lorenzo’s ambitious number that he came up with). When he first presented the idea to me, the first thing I wanted to say was, “impossible”, but I checked myself. Why can’t we do it? We are both pretty smart, business minded people and we’ve managed to do everything else we wanted to do last year so why can’t we? We did the math and if we are willing to make some changes (like move into a less expensive apartment until we are ready to buy a home), we can probably do it in a little over a year. It may take some sacrifice, but wouldn’t it be worth it in the end?

It will involve  combination of cutting costs and seeking more money producing opportunities. I read somewhere online that millionaires always have more than one source of income (3 was the magic number). So we are looking to get other sources of income. I want to say I read that on Business Insider but I could be wrong.

Anyway, our 2015 goal was: Make more and now our 2016 goal is: Save more (while still having fun)

I think this will be interesting.

feature photo credit: Crossfit Wappoo 

Growing Up, Growing Old

When I was younger I used to remember things that people used to say about being in your 30’s and 40’s- very similar to a lot of memes you see nowadays. How you don’t go out at much, your priorities become marriage and family instead of friends and partying, and they all just made it seem so dull and boring. It made me sort of dread it.

Now that I’m at that age, I get it. I understand why things change. Your priorities do change. Sometimes those friends that you used to party with are no longer around and maybe sometimes they are. Your body changes, you get tired a lot faster, injuries happen, you might find yourself suddenly allergic to things you’ve never been allergic to before… no? Just me? Okay then.

Anyway, I completed my physical fitness test this weekend. I was curious as to what my performance would be since I’ve been almost faithfully going to the gym since October. I passed, and I did well but of course-true to form- I have to critique myself on what I need to fix as opposed to being happy with what I’ve done. The test is composed of 3 events: Push ups, sit- ups and a 2-mile run. I scored 80 points in 2 events and 78 points in one event.  Now that I know where I stand, I know where I need to improve so maybe on the next test I can score 90 points in each event.

I’m going to continue to eat well, lift weights, and run more. I’ve already completed a 5K walk/run with another sergeant in my unit. We completed the Color Run in Hampton, GA on April 2nd. It was my first 5K event and I really enjoyed it. It was very family oriented and casual.

Even though I am not used to running 3 miles, this run didn’t take as long as I thought it would. My knee only bothered me a little it so I had to stop and walk for a short time but I was able to keep going. I think I’m going to start running 3 miles now- at least- to help me reach my future physical fitness test goals. I used to do this when I was deployed but…again I was a bit younger and didn’t have too many injuries. So… We’ll see.

Workout Thoughts

As I’m sure many of you already know, as part of being in the military Soldiers have an obligation to remain physically fit at all times. I’m not going to lie: I didn’t always meet the standards. I wasn’t a “PT Stud”, and I never have been.

Cold hard truth: I actually hate working out. Especially running.

But I have to do it. Its a necessary task that I’ve been forcing myself to do for the major part of the last 17 years of my life. I couldn’t even seriously date a guy if he didn’t have some form of a workout routine in his life.

Anyway, Lorenzo and I joined a gym back in October and 4-5 days out of the week we find ourselves there after work. Lorenzo plays basketball while I lift weights. I run at home during my lunch break some days. Because I spend a lot of time by myself, it gives me plenty of time to let my mind run wild. Some of the things that go through my mind while I’m working out are:

“I think I might need to change out my routine. I feel like I do the same things over and over again and I’m still lifting the same amount of weight” (never changes the weight setting or looks into alternative options)

“Man, this hurts. Girl you really need to lay off the bread and cheese. Was it worth it?…. Was it? Yes, of course it was. I want a pizza right now.”

“Why is this song STILL on my iPod?!?! Oh, because you’re too lazy to update the play list. Jackass.”

“I hope that guy doesn’t think those pushups count. Humping the floor is NOT a push up. And this guy…he’s not even extending his arms…ughhhh. None of those count!”

“Stop staring at people. Am I staring? Yeah, probably.”

“Just keep going. The more you work out now the easier it will be when you get older. Man, I remember when this was easy. What have I done with my life?? Oh yeah, moved to Georgia, discovered Shrimp and Grits and gained 20lbs, that’s what.” (runs faster)

“Good form. How does my butt look? Still cute? Cool.”

“Lorenzo looks so hot when he’s working out. Sexy self…. I love him.”

“I REALLY need to put some new songs on this iPod. This playlist is embarrassing.”

“What the…?? Who is this guy? A ninja???”

I really need to stop staring at people when I workout. Sometimes I just monitor the exercises they do to see if its something I can incorporate into my workout. Other times I’m just in awe at the strength and agility that some people have. When I workout with Lorenzo, I’m just in awe of him 🙂

photo credit: isabelfoxenduke