My Baby is Back

Love

I cannot even begin to describe how happy I am to have Lorenzo home. He came home from his training event 2 weeks ago on a Friday night. The next day I took him to the spa to get a massage and a facial. He was so grateful that I planned that surprise for him. He’d been sleeping on a cot for 40 days in the desert so I figured it was the least I could do for him. I took him to Natural Body Spa in Buckhead. I loved that they had a store as soon as you walked in and because its in a plaza I assumed that it would be very small but I was mistaken. Once you go in the back, towards the spa area, there are more rooms and hallways that I wouldn’t have pictured. The bathrooms are even beautifully decorated (I always tell Lorenzo when we buy a house I want our bathrooms to either look like a hotel bathroom or a spa bathroom). The staff was also very polite and professional and I think I will keep going back for my facials. That night for dinner, we went to The Palm, Lorenzo wanted to “thank me” for taking him to the spa, even though it was a birthday present.  The next day we just stayed at home, I’m not really sure Lorenzo told anyone that he was back, he just let everyone call him and then told them…I think he wanted to stay a little silent because he was scheduled to go right back to work that Monday.

The very next Friday was the 4th of July weekend. I had reserved a room at the Hampton, right off of Myrtle Beach, so Friday morning we just got up and drove out there. It actually didn’t take that long or at least it didn’t feel like it took long. We only made one stop and the next thing I know we were in South Carolina almost to his mother’s house. When we stopped to visit his mom, nephew, and brother, Lorenzo’s sister also came over with her new baby Caden. She is SO adorable! She reminded me of Jordin and how much I missed her chunky butt. What was crazy about it was that Jordin and Caden are the same size and Jojo is 3 months younger! I text my sister that she had a fat chunky baby.

Anyway, while we were at the beach we went and walked around Broadway on the Beach, did a little bit of shopping and ended up going to a Seafood Buffet place that I’d never heard of. Lorenzo was eating crab legs like it was a sport. I was just happy he wasn’t complaining while he was eating like he did when we went to Orlando back in 2012 (before I started my blog). While we were talking around we got a drawing made of us and we also got matching rings with our names on them. That all started when I asked him where the tattoo shops were and he asked me if I wanted to get a tattoo of his name on my body. He was actually serious. Now don’t get me wrong, I love Lorenzo…I can’t imagine my life without him right now, but I don’t think I want to get a tattoo of him on me… well not just yet. Maybe if it were for some occasion like our 10 year anniversary or something, but not on impulse. Besides, my mother always told me to NEVER get a man’s name tattooed on you. EVER. That’s when we found the stand with the rings, and he settled for that.

Rings Drawing

That Saturday, we went to the beach and took pictures, we also went to the outlet mall across from the hotel and did some more shopping. I got new jeans and Lorenzo got new shoes. We also bought him some shirts and some T-shirts for his nephew. We went on a quick helicopter ride above the beach for $20, and my old First Sergeant called and told us he was visiting his mom not far from our hotel. So we visited him for a little while before heading out to dinner with Lorenzo’s cousin. This time we went to a Hibachi restaurant back on that Broadway on the Beach place (again, I’m sorry, I don’t remember the name of the place); but the food was good! Lorenzo’s cousin has me thinking I want to try being a vegetarian for a while….well maybe I’ll just eat seafood. That would be another adventure for me on top of this natural hair journey I’m on.  *sigh*

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Sunday, we drove back to Lorenzo’s mothers house where she had prepared lunch for us. She is just the sweetest person ever, at least to me she is :) Then we got back on the road. Again, it wasn’t that bad of a drive and I’m glad because we have to go back this weekend for a wedding. I’m planning on scoping out the area to see if we are interested in having a Myrtle Beach wedding too. Why not kill two birds with one stone? ;)

How was everyone’s 4th of July weekend? Any summer vacation plans to share?

Its Been a Year

UsCan you believe it? Lorenzo and I have been engaged and living together for a year, which also means its the 1 year anniversary of my blog! This year went by so quickly that I didn’t even realize that the date had come and gone while I was away with the Army. I can say that so far, I am not regretful about the move. I’ve done some things I said I would NEVER do (live with a man whom I wasn’t already married to, took on a house wife role for a while, ate fried alligator, etc). You really should never say never. I was very skeptical about the move, not because I didn’t want to live in Georgia, but I was concerned about living with Lorenzo (its in my About Me). I’ve never officially lived with a man I wasn’t related to, so this was a first for me. I had an ex whom I’ve spent a great deal of time with, so it seemed like we lived together but we didn’t; and because he used to get on my nerves so bad I decided that if I HAD to live with a man, he would have to be my husband. The only reason Lorenzo got a pass was because he lived in a different state when we were dating (I didn’t anticipate that).

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Anyway, I really enjoy it here in Atlanta. The positives are that its clean, the people are very friendly, its quiet, the houses are beautiful and affordable, and the weather is nice. The only time I really get homesick (which is something that Lorenzo worried about in the beginning) is when I have to constantly go and get gas because you literally have to drive everywhere, and there isn’t a whole lot of “touristy” things to do, which I understand. New York City has been around forever and a day so you can’t expect Atlanta, which is constantly improving, to have hundreds of sites and attractions like NYC does. But those are the times when I miss it. You can’t beat this weather tho :)

USMC BallLiving here with Lorenzo has been great; we were finally able to do all the things that a normal couple does: go out on “date nights”, spend Saturday’s at home doing absolutely nothing at all, cook dinner for one another, hang out with other couples, take weekend trips together, go to wedding events together, shop for furniture for our place. Normal couples do those things right? Let’s just say it sure beats having to FaceTime each other every night and spending $300-$400 on plane tickets every 6 weeks just to see each other for 3-4 days at a time. The first 2 years of our relationship was very rough. At first, I liked the idea of him living in another state because it gave us an opportunity to get to know each other without the added pressure of having a physical relationship. I got to know him, I learned about his past, what he wants for his future, his dreams, WHY he is who is he is, and vice versa. Once we fell in love it was hard to not be with him everyday. I just had to hope and pray that he was in fact all the things he said he was (and he was) :)

At the beachI’m pretty sure that we are still in the “honeymoon” phase of our relationship and that sooner or later we will start arguing over nonsensical things like me asking him for a sip of juice. That time hasn’t come yet so I’m just going to enjoy this lovey dovey, mushy gushy, sappy romantic ride.  I finally feel like I am no longer going through life by myself, but I have a partner now who I can go through things WITH. He treats me like an equal and holds me to high standards, and I respect him so much for that. Plus he told me he’ll still love me if I gained a bunch of weight from eating all this delicious Southern food. I need to make sure I hold him to that.

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I’m back!

Home

I am back home…finally! I’ve just spent one week in Mississippi and another week in south Georgia and I cannot describe to you how wonderful it is to be able to sleep in my own bed! Now, I do not want to complain about the lovely accommodations that the Army as set up for me, because you know, I’ve always wanted to visit Mississippi in the summer with all the bugs and huge, flying cockroaches they have on the base there (can you sense the sarcasm?). My first class went by really quickly. I am learning to become a trainer; a huge part of becoming a trainer is knowing how to review and evaluate another units training exercises. So we had to learn doctrine, do’s and don’ts, and how to evaluate one another professionally and accurately. Because the class was so short, I felt like we just ran through it; it went by very quickly. I went with 3 other people from my unit and at first we were all separated but my platoon ended up being so small that they just merged us with another platoon…with me being the only female. Everything was fine until we started actually doing the exercises.  I realized that even though we were being graded on how we evaluated the mission and not the mission itself, when you are playing war games with Infantry guys that they take it very seriously. Mississippi is VERY hot…and we had to run around in the woods…twice a day…for 3 days. Let’s just put it like this: I was sweating so much that by the end of each mission I had to peel my clothes off (not cool, btw). But I didn’t complain, I was the only female in the platoon so the last thing I wanted to do was whine about how uncomfortable I was.

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Post mission selfie. After I cleaned myself up…of course.

The guys were loving it though (I am not surprised).  I was also able to speak to Lorenzo almost every night. There were some nights where I was so tired that I fell asleep before he called. He also sent me more pictures of the California desert and I had to remind myself that no matter how miserable I was that he was a worse off than I was (no offense to Cali, I’m just not fan of the military training facilities there). Lorenzo also had to spend his birthday there :( Even though I was sad that I couldn’t spend the day with him, he managed to be okay because he’s just a very positive person. But a few of his Marines (I wouldn’t dare say “Soldiers”) surprised him by making him a cake and decorated it with Hershey bars. I thought that was adorable.

Cali Cake

So after 7 days in Mississippi, we headed back to Georgia and stayed here for another week. We were put back with the rest of the company to finish out the training that they were doing. We missed going to the range, so I’m sure we’ll have to make it up another time. There was some computer based stuff, then we were split were the Team Leaders (since my leader was at another base, I had to fill in for him) were sent to another class while the rest of the soldiers completed Land Navigation, a Leaders Reaction Course, and an Obstacle Course (I am not sad that I missed that). Even though the days went by very quickly, its all the more better for me, because the faster the days go by the faster Lorenzo gets to come home.

Even though I’ve been having 16-18 hours days for the past few weeks, I’m going to back work tomorrow :( So no time off for me until the weekend. But I have planned something special for Lorenzo when he gets home on Friday: I’m taking him to a spa so that he can get a full body massage, he has definitely earned it.  We are also going to Myrtle Beach for the 4th of July :) Plus, I go back to school next week, so I’m going to be pretty busy for the next few months. I really need to focus so that I’m not wasting time do things that I shouldn’t be doing (*cough* Facebook *cough*) time to buckle down and get back to work!

Next up…more of what I’ve learned in the Army.

Family is Forever

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Over the past 3 weeks I have been sad, then happy, then sad again (okay, well not really ‘sad’ but just not as happy). Why? Well because right before Memorial Day, Lorenzo had to leave to start his annual commitment with the Marine Corps. So not only did he miss Memorial Day weekend with me, he also missed the opportunity to meet my nieces Jojo and Mya. The day after Lorenzo left, my sister Morgan, her fiance (I can officially say that now, I think), and their two girls come down to visit his family who also lives here in Georgia. Jae (Morgan’s fiance) has a younger brother who was graduating from high school, so they all came down along with his grandmother, aunt and cousin to celebrate. The plan was for them to stay for a week, but Morgan ended up loving it here so much that she extended her stay for another week. I still have to figure out how she got the airlines to extend her stay for $29, but I digress.

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I’m not gonna lie, it was weird holding a baby again. My youngest sister will be 19 this year, and the only other children I’ve spend a good amount of time with was my cousin Nile, but I went to Iraq a few months after he was born so by the time I came home he was too big to be held. He was already running around. I am so surprised that my little sister is a mother. She always talked about having children, so I am not surprised that she is handling everything so well. She was telling me about all of her “maternal instincts” that just take over when she’s with the baby. I think its amazing. Jordin (Jojo for short) is a very happy baby; she smiles A LOT, and her Mya is LOVING the fact that she’s a big sister now. Spending time with Jae and his family was really very nice. His family is very loving and hospitable and you can tell they have a good time together. When Jae and Mya went home after staying for a week, Morgan and Jo came and stayed with me for another week. My brother Keith came over for the weekend also, so we all got to spend some time together since he didn’t get a chance to meet Jo yet either. I enjoyed having them here (especially since Lorenzo wasn’t around).

Mya and Jo Happy BabyJojo

Jojo is a pretty good baby. I think I did okay with her when I held her; she only cried with me a few times LOL. She was definitely my friend when I was dancing with her and she threw up all over me. I started to laugh and she ended up laughing harder that I did. It was a little tough to send them home (Morgan didn’t want to leave either), but I had to turn around and get ready to start my annual commitment.

Lorenzo and I talk every day, and last night we decided that we have to get serious about the wedding. No more messing around and procrastinating. Whether we go traditional, beach wedding, Vegas, or courthouse, we have to start making serious plans soon. I still haven’t made up my mind about anything beyond the colors. Yes, I know I am a mess. I have two weeks of military training ahead of me and once this is done, I really won’t have too much of an excuse (except for school maybe); but since Lorenzo and I are planning together, it shouldn’t be that bad. *fingers crossed*

When baby vomit attacks Jo laughing at me Teeny Tiny Tootsies

I’m sure I won’t take lots of pictures during my training event (I’ve lost the love of traveling with the military a long time ago), but I’ll definitely make sure to take tons when Lorenzo and I take a trip on the 4th of July. :)

See you in 2 weeks!

Its been a long time….

Sorry

I know…Its been about a month. I’m not sure if you guys remember but the last time I wrote I was telling you about new job Lorenzo’s friend helped me get. Networking is EVERYTHING. The job has been keeping me pretty busy. I’ve spent the past 4 weeks in training, and now I’m in a transition period. I have to do this for a few more weeks, but then I have Army stuff for a few weeks and then I’m back to work. Its been really hectic now that I’m working again, so I just haven’t had the time to write. Apologies.

Lorenzo and I haven’t been doing too much during the past month. For Mother’s Day, we drove out to Daytona to visit his sister for the weekend. The drive took about 6 1/2 hours, and even though we only stayed for about a day and a half, we had a good time. We went shopping, to Daytona Beach, and dinner. We were supposed to go to a club that night, but I was was so exhausted, I went to take a name and didn’t wake up until 3 hours later. We just had a late dinner and went back to sleep. On Mother’s Day, because my fiance is a weirdo and a Marine, we wen with this sister and niece for a quick run around the block. We make up for it by treating them to brunch at a restaurant close to the beach. I am not sure of the name of the restaurant, but it overlooked a pier and had a tree branch running directly through the deck. There was a pelican hung around, and the guests used to feed it raw shrimp.

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Once we got back to Georgia, things went back to normal, we both went back to work. We haven’t been doing much of anything in the mean time. We did to get to go to two new restaurants, both on accident. The first one, we went to pick up Lorenzo’s car from the shop and stopped by this little Thai Place called Siam Square  that I ending up loving. I love Thai food, and didn’t expect this place to be as good as it was because it wasn’t so noticeable from the outside; on any normal day I probably would have drove past it and never had thought twice about it but I’m glad we stopped there.

Lorenzo had to leave for his military training requirement last week so I wanted to take him to Bonefish Grill as his going away dinner but the location we went to was closed. But on the way out we found a bar called Marlow’s Tavern; because it was in the middle of the week (a Monday I think) the place was almost empty but very well decorated. The menu wasn’t strange, but different for a bar (they had grit cakes), but I’m starting to notice that a lot of restaurants in Georgia have grits of some form on the menu. The food was awesome; since it was our first time there, the manager brought us some homemade chips. Lorenzo had a lamb wrap and I had salmon. Even though the food was really good, it was the waitress that made the entire experience memorable for me. Her name was Lexxi and she was the sweetest person I’d ever met. She told us about her engagement and the passing of her mom (yes, Lorenzo and I get pretty friendly sometimes) and to top it off she gave Lorenzo and I $30 to put towards our wedding. Yes, our waitress gave US money to put towards our wedding. We were so taken aback we didn’t know what to do. We left her a HUGE tip though and I know that we will be making another trip back.

Other than that, I’m just waiting to begin my military commitment which is coming up in a few weeks. I probably won’t be able to write while I’m there, but I’ll try to make sure I take care it before and after I leave.

I will make more of an effort to be around more and actually make the time to write. I’ve been slipping and need to get back to it.

She’s a Working Girl Now!

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So again, you’ll all have to forgive me for being absent: I was actually able to find another job  and I just completed my first week. One of Lorenzo’s friends was able to push my resume up a few notches at a very reputable technology company, which led to a few interviews and ultimately me getting hired. This is just proof that networking does work (and it also helps if you actually have the qualifications to do the job). I said all that to say that I have been away from my computer in order to accommodate this new change of events.

Even though I complained (a lot) about not working, I think I went into shock after only working for a few days. I actually got used to getting up and just doing whatever I wanted and not having to face Atlanta traffic…like ever. After my 3rd day at work, I tried to convince Lorenzo that it might not actually be that bad if I stayed at home, so that I could cook for him and give him the attention “he” needed. I was back at work the next day.

My fiance is a funny character. He doesn’t argue or yell, he is a very rational person so when I say crazy, asinine things like “I don’t think I want to go back to work” after we already had a plan that I WAS in fact going to work so that we could save for the wedding and accomplish our other financial goals, he just stared at me and told me that I was just in shock and I’ll be fine. Even though he won’t admit it, I believe that when he stares at me that in his head, he is really cursing me out and calling me crazy…but he just doesn’t want to say it out loud. I’m not sure which one of us is crazier…

So now that I have a real job, with a steady flow of income, Lorenzo and I can finally move forward with the wedding planning. I am not sure how I feel about it. Every time we talk about it, I try to convince him to just elope…no, he’s still not buying it. I’m not sure why I’m reluctant to plan this wedding…its something I dreaded doing since we became serious. I’ve just always wanted to take an awesome honeymoon, since we both like to travel so that will be the fun part for me. But I think that even though we are really late, we should start with some engagement photos and take things one step at a time.

Does anyone have any ideas for some engagement photo ideas? I’ve been looking on Pintrest (that site seems to be my centralized wedding idea site) and I found some that I like and I want something sophisticated and edgy, not boring and cheesy. I mean, lets be real, Lorenzo and I are both headstrong, military people who look weird when we kiss…so that’s out. LOL

Eh…Not so Much…

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Last week I created a post about some of my favorite things, and now I’m going to tell you guys about some things that I can do with out. I don’t like to use the word “hate”, because its a very strong word, and I really don’t have the energy or the attention span to worry about things enough to hate them.

Tomatoes

Tomatoes. Please spare me the “tomatoes are healthy” speech; I know that. There is just something about the way they taste when they are raw that I don’t like- and I never have to be honest. As I got older I’ve tried to incorporate them more into other foods that I eat and I realize that I can eat them when they are seasoned, cooked, or diced up small enough that I can hardly taste them (nachos, anyone?). I even went out on a limb and had Bruschetta a few times- yeah, I’m adventurous like that, but just don’t put one on my sandwich or burger- I am still a work in progress. My taste-buds prefer sweeter foods than anything else, but I also like spicy and savory foods. I can go salty, but only when I have to. Tomatoes has been one of the only foods that I’ve consistently shied away from over the years, other things- like coconut- have grown on me over time.

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Horrid Grammar: No, I’m not the grammar police, but I die a little inside every time I attempt to read something that is so incomprehensible that I get angry and have to turn away (I’m looking at you Facebook). What’s worse is the people who misspell things on PURPOSE!! What are you doing to my language?? Granted, my grammar isn’t perfect, and I don’t always speak in perfect English (who does, really?) but when I write things that I know other people have to read I try to  make sure that it at least makes sense. I’ve had to stay off of Facebook and Comment sections on websites because I always have to ask myself, “Did they read this out loud before they hit Enter? Obviously not.” I don’t care enough to correct people on their bad grammar or spelling (and to be honest, I judge the people that do) but it just makes me ache inside to see it…or read it. I don’t read books full of slag- I just can’t. Sigh… and speaking of which…

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Internet Thugs: I really wish that people would stop with the internet thuggery. Granted it can be quite entertaining on some levels but 95% of the time its just rude, foolish, uneducated, racist, and unfounded rants from people who just want to “hate” and call it giving their opinion. You know what they say about opinions? They are like ***holes, everyone has one. Lorenzo and I laugh at people, especially on Instagram, who follow celebrities and come to their rescue when someone is “hating” on them. Is Beyonce paying you to defend her against “haters” in the comment section? Oh, I didn’t think so. Why do you CARE? You have NOTHING else better to do? I swear, if you are bored and need some laughs visit the comment sections of celebrities on social media sites like Instagram, Facebook, or any article on Yahoo and just read. Some people admit to clicking on them just to either bash or read the crazy comments. I can’t deal with these people.

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Laziness: Okay, this may be more of a pet peeve really. I really don’t like lazy people, both mentally and physically. This is not to say that we all aren’t entitled to having lazy moments: you’re just not in the mood today, and the bed seems to be the best place on Earth right now or you’ve been working your butt off and have earned the right to sleep for a week straight, or you have kids (that’s a reason within itself). I get that. But I am talking about the people who NEVER TRY. You don’t work, you don’t try to work, and you complain when you don’t have or someone doesn’t want to give you something- that you haven’t earned. Are you kidding me? Now, I make it my business not to concern myself with the personal affairs of other people, especially if it doesn’t affect me- but I’m just not a fan of people who never try to get their act together but are always looking for a handout. Or people who just talk and talk and talk, but never bother to educate themselves on the stuff that they talk about. Just because you can be loud, doesn’t make you right. I could go on, but I won’t ;)

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Jail: You know how people have relationship “deal-breakers” , things that they are just not going to put up with from the other person? For me jail is one of them. I am not, nor will I ever go to jail…for anyone. Ever. Period. In my senior year of college, I went to a low security and medium security prison as part of the requirement for my Criminology class, and I vowed never to set foot in one ever again. Watching Orange is the New Black on Netflix has done nothing but reaffirm that fact. Being in the Army is all the jail I need in my life- no thanks. I make this known with everyone- including my female friends- I will be there for you until the end…and for me the end is prison. I won’t go. I’m not cut out for it.

Once, a guy that I was in the Army with asked me if I was a “ride or die (for my man)” type of girl and I said no. He was so shocked and upset that I said that. I had to explain to him that if I’m dating a man who is purposely out in the streets doing illegal things, then I am not obliged to put my life on hold and wait for him to get out of jail. It would be selfish of him to ask. You don’t want me to leave you behind? Don’t do stupid things to land you in jail in the first place, because him being gone for 5 years doesn’t just affect him, it affects me too. Now if it were my husband- and really- depending on what it is, I would have to weigh the circumstances and then make a decision. But other than that, absolutely not. There was another girl who was listening to our conversation and decided she hated me after that because right before he asked me, he’d asked her and she said she would wait. Listen, I don’t care what other people do with their lives, I’m not judging you and if you think I am, you need to ask yourself why my opinion is so important to you in the first place- but either way it goes- I stand by my decisions.

But here is my list. Other things that didn’t make the cut: drama queens (and kings), when people lick paper to separate it, Clogs, and people with poor oral hygiene, or bad hygiene in general.

Tell me some of the things that you aren’t a fan of.